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6th and 7th chakraThird Eye & Crown Chakra Yoga: Intuition, Awareness, and What Remains When We Let Go

Completing the Chakra Journey: The 6th and 7th Chakras

After a brief hiatus, I wanted to return and complete our chakra series by reflecting on our most recent group, which focused on the 6th chakra (third eye) and 7th chakra (crown).

The yoga sequence for this class was intentionally structured in two parts. We began with a flowing practice designed to open all chakras, allowing energy to move freely through the body. From there, we shifted into a slower, more focused practice that brought attention to the third eye and concluded with restorative postures and meditation.

Clearing the Path to Intuition

The intention of this practice was simple but profound:
to reduce physical and mental distractions so that intuition can emerge more clearly.

Stress, tension, and unprocessed emotion often act as “blockages” in the body. When energy cannot flow freely, it becomes difficult to access inner wisdom or clarity. By first tending to the body, we create the conditions necessary to quiet the mind and begin discerning what truly matters.

In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) terms, this is the space where we reconnect with our core values — the things that give our lives meaning beyond productivity or obligation. When the nervous system settles, clarity often follows. From that clarity, true rest and restoration become possible.

Mantras for the Upper Chakras

During this practice, we worked with two simple mantras:

  • “I am connected.”
  • “I rest in awareness.”

These phrases supported a shift away from doing and toward being — a theme that carried into our closing meditation.

What Remains When Nothing Needs to Be Done?

We ended with a final reflective prompt:

“What remains when nothing needs to be done?”

This question often brings up discomfort for many people. When the distractions fall away, clients sometimes notice feelings of anxiety, emptiness, or sadness — especially if much of their life feels superficial or disconnected from passion or purpose.

This is where the wisdom of the upper chakras becomes especially relevant.

What remains is awareness.
What remains is the experience of witnessing life — seeing, sensing, and participating in the world as it unfolds.
What remains is connection.

On a broader level, this can include a sense of cosmic connection — the understanding that we are part of something vast and interconnected. We share this planet together. We come from the earth and, eventually, return to it. On an even larger scale, we are part of the universe itself — quite literally stardust.

For some, this realization brings deep peace and belonging.

When Cosmic Connection Feels Like Too Much

For others, however, focusing on the crown chakra can initially feel isolating rather than comforting. If physical or emotional connection is lacking, cosmic connection may feel distant or hollow.

In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, this level aligns with self-actualization. But self-actualization cannot be sustained without the layers beneath it.

This is where the third eye chakra invites us to see clearly:

  • to notice where community already exists,
  • to recognize opportunities for connection,
  • or to acknowledge that we may need to actively build community through small, intentional steps.

Working Up — and Down — the Chakras

If clarity or connection still feels blocked, it’s often helpful to move downward through the chakras rather than pushing forward:

  • 5th chakra (throat):
    Do boundaries or unmet needs need to be voiced?
  • 4th chakra (heart):
    Is there work to do around self-compassion, self-talk, or allowing love in?
  • 3rd chakra (solar plexus):
    Is it time to build momentum, confidence, or take action toward what you want?
  • 2nd chakra (sacral):
    Are emotions asking for attention, expression, or understanding?
  • 1st chakra (root):
    Is there a need for grounding, safety, and reassurance — the reminder that you have the right to be here and to feel secure?

Self-actualization is not a straight upward climb. More often, it requires moving up and down, listening carefully to where energy feels blocked, and meeting ourselves there with patience.

Integration, Not Perfection

All of these layers are interconnected. To access higher awareness, we often must tend to foundational needs first. And as those foundations strengthen, clarity and meaning naturally rise again.


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Understanding the Stages of Grief: A Gentle Guide Through Loss

It’s the end of October and the beginning of November with Halloween and Dia de los Muertos behind us. I love the idea of having a time of the year dedicated to thinking of the after life and of honoring our ancestors. However, with all the reminders of death during this particular holiday season, grief can be stirred up. There may be those who have been triggered and wondering what is going on with their swings in emotional states. I thought I would take this time to review the stages of grief in order to offer some support and understanding if you find yourself in the grief process.

The Five Stages of Grief

The idea of the “five stages of grief” was introduced by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her groundbreaking 1969 book On Death and Dying. She initially developed the model while studying people facing terminal illness, but it has since been applied more broadly to all types of loss (Kübler-Ross, 1969; Kübler-Ross & Kessler, 2005).

1. Denial

Denial serves as an emotional buffer. It helps the mind process loss at a pace it can handle. People might say things like, “This can’t be happening,” or find themselves moving through daily routines on autopilot. Denial gives us space to absorb shock before deeper feelings surface.

2. Anger

As reality sets in, anger often arises — directed at oneself, others, or even at life itself. Anger is sometimes easier to express than pain, and it provides a temporary sense of control. Recognizing anger as a natural part of healing prevents guilt from compounding the emotion (Worden, 2009).

3. Bargaining

In this stage, the mind searches for meaning or tries to negotiate away pain: “If only I had done this differently…” or “Maybe if I change something, things will return to normal.” Bargaining often reflects our struggle to regain a sense of agency in an uncontrollable situation.

4. Depression

When the full weight of the loss sinks in, sadness, fatigue, or withdrawal may appear. This is not necessarily clinical depression but rather a reflection of the profound emptiness that loss brings. Allowing these feelings without judgment helps us integrate grief rather than resist it (Stroebe & Schut, 2010).

5. Acceptance

Acceptance does not mean being “okay” with the loss. It means acknowledging reality and finding a new way to live alongside it. This stage is about integration — learning to carry love and memory forward in a new way (Neimeyer, 2019).

Beyond the Five Stages

In my most recent yoga therapist training at Purusha Yoga School  (San Francisco, CA), I took a class “Aging Gracefully”.  The Primary teacher and founder of this school, Joy Ravelli,  had compiled an excellent class on death and dying.  From her research and practice she shared a different “version” of the grief stages that I feel have changed my perspective on this process, particularly with the addition of the stage of “wisdom”. Here they are:

1.Denial/ Shock 

 Denial and Shock help us survive and cope.  This stage helps us pace our grief.

Shock and denial are defense mechanisms.

2. Exploring Emotional

(Otherwise known as “Anger” and “Bargaining”)

The stage of searching and yearning leads to feeling in the body.  Those feelings may be anger, sadness, panic, hurt, loneliness, despair, depression.  Each of these feelings has a story.  Each of these feelings has an energy.

3. Conscious Rest

(Also known as “depression” – Instead of just depression, this stage includes the following:)

  • Depression. This may be a period of isolation and loneliness during which you process and reflect on the loss.
  • The upward turn. At this point, the stages of grief like anger and pain have died down, and you’re left in a more calm and relaxed state.
  • Reconstruction and working through. You can begin to put pieces of your life back together and carry forward.

4. Acceptance

Acceptance and hope. This is a very gradual acceptance of the new way of life and a feeling of possibility in the future.

5. Wisdom

Grief becomes wisdom and empathy develops for others in that through the transformational experience of grief we come to a place where we can recognize these states in others.

Moving Forward

Grief changes us, but it can also deepen our capacity for empathy, gratitude, and meaning. There is no timetable or “correct” way to grieve — only your way. The stages are also not linear so you could experience acceptance one day and the next day be back in anger.  Support from compassionate others, therapy, and time can help integrate loss into a renewed sense of wholeness.

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References

  • Kübler-Ross, E. (1969). On Death and Dying. Macmillan.
  • Kübler-Ross, E., & Kessler, D. (2005). On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss. Scribner.
  • Stroebe, M., & Schut, H. (1999). The Dual Process Model of Coping with Bereavement: Rationale and Description. Death Studies, 23(3), 197-224.
  • Stroebe, M., & Schut, H. (2010). The Dual Process Model of Coping with Bereavement: A Decade On. Omega, 61(4), 273-289.
  • Worden, J. W. (2009). Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner (4th ed.). Springer.
  • Neimeyer, R. A. (2019). Meaning Reconstruction in the Wake of Loss. Death Studies, 43(1), 1-11.

How Meditation Affects the Brain

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I’m facilitating a new class, Monday Yoga /Wellness Class, that starts Monday June 20 at 7pm (space is limited so contact me if you are interested.)

This class is aimed at developing an individual wellness/meditation practice.  We will do yoga postures to let go of any tension and to open the body up for relaxation for the first part of the class.  The rest of the class is focused on progressive relaxation, breathing, and a variety of meditative techniques.   (Props, chairs, and mats are available).

I have many people who come to see me that want a meditation or a yoga practice at home.  I created this class to help with that.  We will be exploring not only how and why to prepare before meditation but also will practice different meditative techniques for students to “try out”.

We will also discuss how meditation affects the brain.

The research is suggesting that a regular meditation practice (15-30 minutes a day) can increase gray matter in the brain, build new connections, clean out plaque that causes dementia, reduce the size of the amygdala which causes the fight or flight response, and increase our resiliency to cortisol (stress hormone).

There are many reasons to work on a meditation practice, especially if you are trying to be healthy and/or reduce stress and its effects.  Of course this should be easy enough, right? Why is sitting 15-30 minutes every day so difficult to maintain (and for some even start)?  One is that sitting in general can be painful and uncomfortable. Two, establishing any new habit or change is difficult. Consistency, consistency, consistency.  The mantra for true success ……Oh if developing consistency itself was easy.

Even if you practice now and then, it is better than none at all.  I would encourage everyone to try for 5 minutes and go from there.  You may surprise yourself that you can actually develop your own practice if you keep coming back to it when you think of it, no matter how long the in-between.

One also does not have to just “sit”.  I’m also hoping this new class will educate students on what is meditation by research standards vs other definitions.

Here are some links that discuss the effects on the brain from meditation and the research behind it:

Psychology today

Mindful.org

Washington Post

How to Start a Breathwork Practice

keep calm and breath pdf

Breath is a powerful connecting force between the mind and the body.  Building and expanding on our breath not only increases vitality and energy, it can also be an amazing healing tool.  Although it is recommended to have an experienced teacher before beginning any significant breathwork practice, anyone can initiate this journey with some simple steps and create a 15 minute practice.  This practice can be added to a regular yoga asana practice or meditation practice.

  1. Identify a dry comfortable area to practice in.
  2. Limit distractions such as turning off or down your cellphone
  3. Wait a little after eating so you don’t have a full stomach. A little water before starting can be helpful.
  4. Avoid coffee before practicing.
  5. Decide on time to practice. Early morning is an ideal time to practice before your money cup of coffee/tea.
  6. Lie on your back or find a comfortable sitting position.
  7. Begin by just observing and tracking the breath as it comes in through your nose and down your windpipe into your diaphragm and track as it exits the body.
  8. Spend 5-10 minutes practicing observing.
  9. Spend the next 5-10 minutes focusing on long slow exhales.
  10. Sit in quiet for 3-5 minutes with normal breath.

At this point the work is on being the observer. Breathwork is not completed by “controlling” or forcing the breath, it is done effectively by observing and “playing” with the breath. If your goal in breathwork is increased vitality and wellness, then the safest way to begin your practice is by observing where you are first.   This takes time and cannot be determined with one breathing practice session but must be observed over time.  Variables like a new stressor or trying something for the first time can alter your baseline habits.  Overtime however one can determine the average count and length of the breath and identify a good goal to work on.  The goal is usually in lengthening both inhales and exhales comfortably without strain.  This will increase vitality.  However sometimes a person may need more help specifically with inhaling or exhaling and a trained instructor can guide the person in their practice.  There are also techniques like holds and various therapeutic practices that can target a particular healing aspect of the breath.  For more information on pranayama, a good book to reference is The Yoga of Breath: a Step-by-Step Guide to Pranayama by Richard Rosen.