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Pain vs. Suffering: How to Reduce Chronic Pain by Working With Your Nervous System

If you’ve been following along, we’ve been exploring three core questions about chronic pain:

  • What is pain, really?
  • Why does my body perceive pain the way it does?
  • How can I experience less pain, move better, and function more fully in daily life?

In the last two posts, we explored what pain is and how the nervous system processes it. Today, we begin answering the third question:

How do we experience less pain?

The first step is understanding the difference between pain and suffering.

Pain vs. Suffering: What’s the Difference?

Pain and suffering are often used interchangeably, but they are not the same.

Psychology Today offers this helpful distinction:

  • Pain: A physical sensation that occurs in response to injury or illness. It serves as a biological signal that something may need attention. Pain can be acute (short-term) or chronic (long-term).
  • Suffering: The emotional and psychological distress that arises from pain. It is influenced by how we interpret, react to, and relate to the pain — including anxiety, frustration, fear, or hopelessness.

Pain is a biological message.

Suffering is the story we build around that message.

When we reduce tension, fear, and resistance — as discussed in previous posts — we reduce the nervous system’s perception of threat. This alone can dial pain down.

But we can go further.

We can begin to separate sensation from interpretation.

Why This Matters for Chronic Pain

Pain is not optional.

Suffering often is.

We may not control the initial sensation, but we do have influence over:

  • Resistance
  • Catastrophic thinking
  • Identity-based beliefs (“I am broken”)
  • Fear-based projections about the future

Suffering is often the additional layer we heap on top of the biological pain.

It’s similar to the difference between guilt and shame:

  • Guilt says: “I did something wrong.”
  • Shame says: “I am wrong.”

Pain says: “There is sensation in my back.”
Suffering says: “My body is broken and my life is over.”

One is data.
The other is interpretation.

How to Distinguish Between Pain and Suffering

Use the following self-inquiry to separate sensation from story.

Step 1: Is This Sensation or Story?

Pain-focused questions (sensation):

  • What am I physically noticing right now (location, temperature, pressure, movement)?
  • Can I describe this using only sensory words?
  • Is the sensation shifting, even slightly?

Suffering-focused questions (story):

  • What am I telling myself about this sensation?
  • Am I predicting the future?
  • Am I making this mean something about who I am?
  • What am I afraid this pain will lead to?

Pain: “Sharp, pulsing in lower back.”
Suffering: “This will never get better.”

Step 2: Is There Resistance?

Suffering often equals:

Pain × Resistance

Ask yourself:

  • Am I fighting this sensation?
  • Am I bracing or tensing against it?
  • What happens if I soften by just 5%?
  • If this sensation were allowed to exist for 30 seconds, what would change?

The nervous system amplifies pain when it senses threat.
Resistance sends a threat signal.

Softening reduces it.

Step 3: Is Identity Involved?

Pain is an experience.
Suffering becomes identity.

  • Am I saying “I have pain” or “I am broken”?
  • Has this sensation become part of who I think I am?
  • Who would I be without this story?
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Step 4: Am I Time Traveling?

Pain happens in the present moment.
Suffering lives in the past and future.

  • Am I replaying how this started?
  • Am I imagining worst-case outcomes?
  • If I focus only on right now, what is actually happening?

Often, this moment is tolerable.
It’s the imagined trajectory that overwhelms us.

Step 5: What Is This Pain Trying to Protect?

This is where we shift into compassion.

  • If this pain had a protective job, what would it be?
  • What might my nervous system believe is dangerous?
  • Is there an unmet need underneath this sensation?

Pain is not your enemy.
It is often your body trying to protect you.

Step 6: Separate Sensation from Meaning

Try this:

  • What is the raw data?
  • What is the interpretation?
  • Which part is optional?

Example:

  • Raw data: throbbing knee
  • Interpretation: “I’ll never hike again.”
  • Optional layer: catastrophic projection

A Simple Formula for Reducing Suffering

Pain = Sensation
Suffering = Sensation + Resistance + Story + Fear

To reduce suffering:

  1. Ease resistance.
  2. Rewrite the narrative.
  3. Challenge fear-based thinking.
  4. Respond with self-compassion instead of self-judgment.

For example:

Instead of:
“I won’t be able to provide for my family because I can’t work.”

Try:
“I care deeply about providing for my family. I will explore options and get professional guidance.”

One is fear.
The other is values-based action.

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Reducing suffering doesn’t require eliminating pain.

It requires changing your relationship to it.

And that is absolutely possible.

Mindfulness, Relationships, Stress Management, Wellness topic, Yoga

Heart Chakra Yoga: How We Protect Our Heart Through Posture and Emotional Defenses

The Protected Heart: How We Guard Ourselves Physically and Emotionally

Many of us protect our heart without even realizing it.

We protect the heart physically through posture.
We protect emotionally through distance or defensiveness.
We protect psychologically through busyness, humor, or emotional armor.

These protective patterns develop for good reasons — survival, loss, disappointment — but over time they can begin to restrict not just emotional connection, but physical wellbeing as well.

In heart chakra yoga, the heart center (Anahata) becomes a helpful lens for understanding this pattern. Whether you view chakras as scientific, symbolic, psychological, or spiritual, the heart chakra represents our capacity for connection, compassion, vulnerability, and breath.

When the heart becomes overly protected, we may stay safe —
but we stop fully living.

How Posture Physically Protects the Heart

Take a moment to check your posture.

Are your shoulders rounding forward?
Is your upper back slightly hunched?
Is your chest collapsed inward?

This posture is extremely common in modern life — phones, driving, stress, emotional fatigue — all gradually pull the body into a protective shape.

The physical effects of closed posture:

  • Limits lung expansion
  • Restricts deep breathing
  • Shortens chest muscles
  • Weakens upper-back muscles
  • Increases neck and shoulder tension

The emotional impact:

The body is always sending messages to the nervous system.

A collapsed chest communicates defense.
A shallow breath communicates threat.
A braced body communicates unsafety.

Over time, the nervous system begins to associate safety with contraction rather than openness.

Emotional Defenses Are Learned Body Patterns

Just as the body adopts protective posture, the heart develops protective behavior.

Common emotional heart protection looks like:

  • Emotional distancing
  • Hyper-independence
  • Avoiding closeness
  • Expecting disappointment
  • Staying busy to avoid feeling

These patterns are not flaws — they are adaptations.

But what once kept us safe can eventually limit our relationships, emotional wellbeing, and even our physical health.

The Cost of Emotional and Physical Guarding

When the heart chakra remains chronically defended, many people experience:

  • Emotional numbness or detachment
  • Chronic shoulder and neck pain
  • Shallow breathing
  • Loneliness even in relationships
  • Fatigue that doesn’t resolve with rest

The body and emotional system operate together.

When one closes, the other follows.

Opening the Heart Chakra Does NOT Mean Losing Boundaries

Heart chakra healing does not mean being naive, passive, or exposed.

A balanced heart chakra knows when to open and when to protect appropriately.

Opening the heart means:

  • Allowing connection where it is safe
  • Softening when guardedness is no longer helpful
  • Choosing vulnerability intentionally

Health is not about staying open all the time.
It is about knowing when to soften and when to strengthen.

How Heart Chakra Yoga Supports Emotional Healing

Heart-opening yoga poses gently stretch the chest, shoulders, and upper spine. But more importantly, they communicate safety to the nervous system.

Practicing heart chakra yoga can help:

  • Improve breathing
  • Reduce emotional tightness
  • Increase body awareness
  • Support emotional resilience
  • Encourage vulnerability in safe ways

When the posture opens, the nervous system learns a new experience:

It is safe to breathe.
It is safe to soften.
It is safe to feel.

Emotional Balance Requires Both Protection and Openness

True heart healing does not come from extremes.

We live best not from:

  • a closed heart
  • or a recklessly open heart

But from a heart that is regulated, aware, and responsive.

A balanced heart chakra allows:

  • connection without collapse
  • vulnerability without overwhelm
  • compassion without depletion

Heart Chakra Yoga Sequence (Free Download)

This week’s Heart Chakra Yoga Sequence focuses on gentle backbends, chest expansion, and breath awareness — designed not to force openness, but to invite it slowly.

If your chest feels tight…
If your breath feels shallow…
If your heart feels tired…

This practice is for you.

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Stress Management, Yoga

Yoga Sequence for the 3rd Chakra (Manipura)

Here’s the sequence we practiced at our last yoga therapy group:

Opening Grounding (5 minutes)

Seated or reclined with one hand on belly, one on heart

Invite slow diaphragmatic breathing

Bring awareness to the space between navel and ribcage

Visualization: a warm golden light igniting like a small flame

Emotional check-in: “What feels heavy here? What feels strong?”

Optional affirmation:

I am enough.

I have the right to take up space.

Therapeutic purpose: establishes safety while orienting attention to inner authority.

2. Breathwork (8 minutes)

Option A: Kapalabhati (gentle)

30–60 seconds on / rest / repeat 3 rounds
(Modify for anxiety or trauma with softer belly pulses)

Option B: Seated Cat–Cow with breath

Inhale = expand chest

Exhale = draw navel inward

Option C: Belly breathing with resistance

Light pressure from hands on abdomen during exhale

Purpose: stimulates digestive fire and improves interoceptive awareness.

3. Warming & Core Activation (15 minutes)

Flow Sequence (slow and steady)

Seated torso circles

Tabletop core work (bird dog or knee-to-nose)

Half Sun Salutation (knees down option)

Chair Pose → Fold → Rise (repeat 3–5 rounds)

Strength-Building Postures

Warrior II

Crescent Lunge

Twisted Lunge

Boat Pose (or one-leg version)

Plank → Child’s Pose

Offer choice-based language and frequent rest cues.

Purpose: empowers one to feel agency and capability through safe exertion.

4. Empowerment Postures (15 minutes)

Hold poses longer with affirmation choices:

Warrior I: I stand strong.

Chair Pose: I can hold discomfort and grow.

Side plank (or modified): I take up space.

Dolphin / Forearm Plank: I build from within.

Invite optional arm-positioning as power symbols (fists, arms overhead, hands on hips).

Therapeutic framing: Strength as choice, not force.

5. Cooling + Emotional Digestion (10 minutes)

Gentle abdominal release poses:

Seated forward fold

Supine twist

Reclined knee-to-chest

Supported bridge (block or bolster)

Optional self-touch cue:

Hands over solar plexus to stimulate safety + embodied awareness.

Purpose: supports integration and “emotional digestion.”

6. Guided Visualization + Savasana (7 minutes)

Visualization prompt:
“Imagine a steady flame in your belly—warm, bright, unwavering. Not burning… glowing.”

Invite reflection:

What are you ready to release?

What feels newly possible?

End with silence or soft music.

7. Closing Reflection (5 minutes)

Group or journaling prompts:

“One way I will assert myself this week is…”

“What drains my energy? What fuels it?”

“What does healthy power feel like in my body?”

final mantra:
🟡 “I act with courage and clarity.”

Mindfulness, Wellness topic, Yoga

Integrating Chakra Work Into Clinical Yoga Therapy

Exploring a Mind–Body Lens for Mental and Physical Wellness

Since completing my yoga therapist training, I’ve been slowly weaving more yogic therapeutic elements into my clinical counseling practice. One of the most helpful bridges between traditional mental-health models and yoga therapy has been using the chakra system as a lens for understanding health, behavior, and emotional patterns.

Whether a client approaches chakras and “energy medicine” literally or metaphorically, the framework gives them another way of exploring what’s happening in their body and mind—and often opens new pathways for healing.

How Chakra Inquiry Supports Clinical Work

A simple example: a client arrives feeling anxious and overwhelmed. Instead of diving straight into cognitive or behavioral interventions, we might do a brief check-in with each chakra to identify what feels “off” or unbalanced.

If we notice root-chakra themes—such as feeling unsafe, untethered, or unstable—we would work with grounding practices.
The Root Chakra (Muladhara) relates to:

  • Safety and survival
  • A sense of belonging and the right to exist
  • Grounding, centering, and stability
  • The earth element

Because the client is experiencing the opposite of these qualities, our work might include:

  • Breathwork with slow, steady rhythms
  • Grounding postures and simple yoga sequences
  • Connection with nature (walking, sitting on the earth, sensory awareness)
  • Steady, rhythmic music—like a heartbeat
  • Mantras or self-talk such as “I am safe. I have a right to be here.”

These interventions mimic many of the skills we use in counseling—particularly mindfulness practices from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). First, we help the client step back and regulate. Then, with clearer awareness, they can move toward the chakra’s core value—like security, grounding, or stability—and take committed action.

Chakras as a Lens for Physical Concerns

The chakra model is just as useful for physical symptoms.

For example, someone experiencing lower-back pain may benefit from practices associated with the root chakra. By focusing on grounding and opening through yoga postures, we help release tension and bring awareness to both the physical and emotional layers of discomfort.

Root-supporting postures might include:

  • Mountain Pose
  • Bridge Pose
  • Child’s Pose

These movements lengthen, strengthen, and create spaciousness in the low back while reinforcing feelings of stability.

To help with pain, other root chakra focused practices like 3 part breathing or grounding in nature can be used to help a person take a step back and not “fuse” or panic with the pain but hold space for the pain so it can provide them feedback on what their body needs.

This Week’s Root Chakra Group Sequence

We launched our chakra group this week at the office—starting, of course, with Chakra One: Root (Muladhara). Below is the grounding sequence we practiced together.

🌿 Gentle Rooting Flow

  1. Mountain Pose (Tadasana) — Feel the soles of your feet; establish your root.
  2. Chair Pose (Utkatasana) — Build strength and stability.
  3. Tree Pose (Vrksasana), Right — Explore balance and grounding.
  4. Chair Pose
  5. Tree Pose, Left
  6. Goddess Squat (Utkata Konasana) — Inner strength, willpower, courage.
  7. Wide-Leg Forward Fold
  8. Return to Mountain, then Forward Fold, step back to Tabletop.
  9. Child’s Pose (Balasana) — Safety, surrender, breath into the back body.
  10. Cat/Cow
  11. Thread the Needle, Right
  12. Thread the Needle, Left
  13. Pigeon Pose (Kapotasana), Right
  14. Transition to Fire Logs Pose (Agnistambhasana)
  15. Move into Cow Face Pose (Gomukhasana)
  16. Shift into a gentle backbend, lifting the pelvis and looking behind.
  17. Butterfly Pose, then repeat steps 13–16 on the left side.
  18. Bridge Pose (Setu Bandhasana) or Supported Bridge
  19. Legs Up the Wall (Viparita Karani) — Grounded rest; nervous-system reset.

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Anatomy, brain, research, Yoga

What is Vagus Nerve Stimulation?

The vagus nerve is a very long nerve that carries signals back and forth to your brain, heart, lungs and digestive system. It is the longest cranial nerve in your body. It is said to run from the brain all the way to the large intestines. It also has branches that reach all of our major organs.

I tell clients that the vagus nerve is what people consider to be the “lizard brain” of the body. It is responsible for fight or flight responses and also freeze and hide. It controls involuntary sensory and motor functions like your heart rate, speech, mood and urine output. It is a very complex system of communication with our entire body but it has a very important role in how we respond to stress. The role it plays is regulating the way the body switches from the rational brain (the parasympathetic nervous system – relaxed state) to a fight or flight response (sympathetic nervous system – alert state).

Apparently the vagus nerve can lose its ability to switch back easily to the parasympathetic mode due to factors like stress or age. Also Known as vagal dysfunction, this can put a person at risk for high blood pressure, heart disease, Type 2 diabetes, depression and anxiety.

Professionals say that stimulating the vagus nerve will help our body to switch more quickly to a relaxed state. They recommend a variety of things to do to “stimulate” the vagus nerve. These include: 1) meditation, 2) exercise, 3) music, 4)massage, 5)cold exposure and also through 6) a medical intervention, applying an implanted or transcutaneous vagus nerve stimulation, VNS/tVNSSo “stimulation”.

These activities create a cascade of events in our body that lead to activating the parasympathetic nervous system. Sensory signals initiate when we participate in one of the above activities. This signal then travels up to the brain stem from the lower part of the body that is participating in the activity/sensation. The brain stem then sends signals to activate certain parts of the parasympathetic nervous system, which in turn, decreases cortisol, heart rate, and increases metabolism. This mechanism triggers the release of chemicals like serotonin and anti-inflammatory related chemicals that help our body feel calm and less pain. This series of events isn’t just for experiencing relaxation — it’s a multi-system communication event linking the nervous, endocrine, and immune systems. It affects not just an emotional state but the entire body.

The reason that the above activities trigger a response that activates the parasympathetic nervous system is the need for our body to seek balance and recovery. When we shock it with cold our body wants homeostasis, so it activates a series of events to calm us down. This idea of trying to return back to its original state and achieve homeostasis is also at work with activities like massage/yoga/exercise. These activities create specific changes in our body systems that makes the body want to return to it’s original state. Our body registers the sensations and our vagus nerve sends out messages to release chemicals to balance excitement or other changes. These chemicals make us feel calm and “okay”. Breathing/humming/music can also do the same thing. Basically any sensory activity that is not overly stressful or perceived as actual danger, can stimulate the vagus nerve in a healthy manner. The more we do these activities, the more training we do for our system to be stronger and recover quickly from changes and imbalances, ie stress in our environment.

On a side note, a big chemical messenger that is responsible in this process is Acetylcholine (Ach). It’s a little bit more technical for me to explain so for further information on this process, go to this link.

Also for more info on polyvagal theory, click here.

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